There are many ways to put her mind and wholeness at ease in a physical, emotional and sexual way. Men need to understand just what a woman needs to calm her down and make her be more open to receiving you at many levels. It starts with care, compassion, commitment, courage and patience.
The first thing a woman wants is your attention. This is a good place to start. Look at her and give attention to her every gesture and move. Witness her walk and moments. Take the time to inhabit her being. Look at her from your wholeness rather than just a part of yourself. Envelope her with your eyes.
Next is to harmonize your energies so that there is a positive flow between you. A good way to do this is to lie down next to her and just hold her. Try different positions of holding such as cradling and rocking her. Let there be a skin to skin and breath to breath connection. While holding her practice connecting to her every breath.
Now it’s time to prepare you. One of the first things a man could do is get a manicure and pedicure. Being clean and shiny will make her feel safe. Some men are not aware of their toe nails looking ragged. Have clean teeth, flossed and good smelling breath. Eat a light diet that day so that your food isn’t bringing on indigestion. Avoid colognes and empty out the system. Make an intention for the evening. Make it meditative and special.
Being patient takes practice, so let’s start. Women need time and space. Women fear that men are rushing them and can lose the moment. To put her at ease, it is best to cherish the moment, take your time, be slow, soft and let go of the expectations. Before beginning ask her what emotions she is experiencing, what does she feel and where in her body. Hold her and ask her what she is experiencing. Talk to here and tell her that you care and are there to support her. Take the time to notice her feelings and notice the way she tenses, moves and mostly her vulnerability.
Next is to take the initiative. Set the tone of the environment. Clear out and clean the space where you make love and decorate it with flowers and candles. Do the choirs around the house for that week. Take the load off of her and make her feel deserved and special. Help her to ease the moment.
Feel her with your whole heart, your whole being, don’t just feel her up and also communicate on different levels. Ask her permission to touch her before doing it. Also do not focus on just her parts. Be committed and stay focused with her. Keep her present and trusting to you. Listen to her words, her actions. Recreate the love and find new ways to fall in love all over again. Allow yourself to express your love for her in words, express to her that you want to make love to her. Tell her how attracted you are to here. Women love to hear a man say how much they like her. You can keep her focused when you keep telling her you care and it’s all about her.
And finally appreciate her for who she is and the things she does. Let her know how much she is appreciated. Use the word appreciation not only in the bedroom but in other situations. Also practice looking into her eyes and keeping that connection solid. Healing her is loving her and is very sexy…
